Yesterday was one of those days where I suffered enlightenment. When this happens I usually cry. You might wonder why that is... "isn't enlightenment a good thing?" Well, in my case enlightenment means discovering the blunt (sometimes kind of ugly) truth about myself.
What I did was taking stock of my life so far and I wasn't exactly pleased with the outcome: I've wasted six years trying to please everybody! I was a really good girl (which is a generally desirable attribute), but I could have been much closer to achieving my goals than I am right now if I just followed my heart instead of other people's expectations.
The purpose of this post is to ask you not to make the same mistake - pleasing everybody usually doesn't result in success and you will only feel miserable!
It's good to recognize you've got a problem but it's not enough if you want to resolve it! - So, I dug a little deeper and found that there are two reasons for my urge to please everybody: 1. fear of rejection/failure and 2. lack of a healthy self-esteem.
Discussing these two aspects in more detail is beyond the scope of this brief post (but I may dedicate a future post to both points).
Now that I know the cause of my problem I can start to make the necessary changes in order to be myself and follow MY dreams!
Next time you make a decision based on what other people expect from you, remember the words of the great Bill Cosby:
"I don't know the key to success but I know the key to failure is trying to please everybody."
Be yourself - and you will have friends and enemies just like everybody else!
If you have any thoughts or advice you'd like to share, please leave a comment or contact me via email!
1 comment:
Yeah! well I get the same feeling some times, and the thing is as you grow older sometimes the line between what you want and what the other people want from you becomes more and more diffuse. It kinda sucks but sometimes just to be yourself is a game of real skill. For this I would suggest to live the adventure of yourself without religion, desire and vanity. Your blog is cool Sarah keep it up!!
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